Wednesday, April 19, 2006

thinking on purpose.

so a friend said to me "...u think too much...".

well actually i don't think i think too much...if you'd ask me, i feel fact of the matter is that most of the time its not about excessive thinking. we work our brains too little in fact. haa. its more on the choices we make about what we're thinking, ie. choosing our thoughts. cos where the mind goes, the heart follows. and i guess we should really learn to 'think on purpose'. our thoughts can either make or break us, either depress ourselves with our thoughts or make ourselves happy. many a times, its just a thin line between being happy or sad, most of the problem we have somehow goes back to our thinking. i've heard and met so many who suffers (or claim to) from depression, be it chronic, periodic or even temporal...arent those times we were upset becos we opted to think negatively? for example one might choose to think "haiz, no one loves me, no one cares for me..im so alone..." and this negative thought leads to a series of other negative thoughts..and hence creating a downward spiral of emotions.....leading to 'depression' (a word so often loosely used). we can also choose to think in terms of "people around me are probably abit busy and the way they express love is just different from what our expectations of love is" so on and so forth.

well just a very random example, but the idea is we can choose to reject negative thoughts. to cast down all these 'wrong thoughts'. many a times people just get so disillusioned with what they think (which are mostly assumptions, or a part of whole), that they eventually believe what they think is real...and hence becoming a fact in their life. then this whole negative thing becomes a vicious cycle which eventually consumes our entire being. wears us down and stuffs. we become less happy and less productive. in short i guess..being negative just sucks life off everything. therefore it isnt really true that we're thinking too much right, haa..in fact we should agressively fill our mind and think positive thoughts, good thoughts..

of course its easy to say, but when crunch time comes..it really isnt easy at all. but havent we all realised that all these negative thoughts creeps in kinda when we have too much spare time on hand. an idle mind is the devil's workshop. so, make a choice to not only cast down wrong thoughts, but fill it in with the right thing so that there's no space for the wrong to get back in. and the only right thing to fill our mind with is to always renew our mind with the Word of God every single day (Roman 12:2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will)...loving the Word and to do our part in guarding our own heart and mind. stand your ground, be proactive, so that the devil has no chance to fill our mind. where the mind goes, the man follows..where the mind goes the man follows. so choose to think on purpose, don't just sit and wait for things to fall in your head. makes sense? anyway talking about depression, loneliness and stuffs....amidst all the therapy and counselling that is available, the fastest and most effective way i feel is to actually get off your butt and start doing something! best thing to do is go out and be a blessing to someone else. stop looking inwardly into ourselves and our circumstance/problems..or stop looking at our problem through a magnifying glass.. go out and do something good, purposeful..u might just come back and feel 'hey that problem is not as big as i thought it was', or probably you would have adopted a new mindset to look at that problem or even to solve it.
*imagines everytime a person is upset, he/she goes out to bless someone..with an action/gift/act of kindness or anything...isnt this gonna be a more beautiful world. ahaha. everyone wld be so much happier.. then uh-ohh..its gonna be hard for me to find a job as psychologist in future. lol.

yesterday i was having a chat with my friend, and she popped the question about finding meaning and purpose in life.. i mean we might be living a not-so-boring life or even a very adventurous life..but end of the day, there's still something lacking.... personal experience tells me that the most rewarding and purposeful thing one could actually do is by adding value and investing into people's life. yeah..isnt this what life is about? God is all about love and relationship. being passionate about people.

i've always believed that living a life without passion is as good as not living at all. i've had many passions in life, netball and taekwondo were one of those few...netball ended soon after my secondary school days. then there was the passion for taekwondo, which practically consumed me. that would be the first thing on my mind after i wake up and last thing on my mind before i sleep. i would be thinking and fantasizing what kinda kicks i would perform to score against my opponent, what moves to enable a Knock Out, do my stretchings even while watching TV, or think about my trainings and what i can do to improve and more. i held on to this passion for about 10years, since primary six, then i injured myself badly and doctor advised me not to go ahead with this sport anymore..my world came crashing down ....

...finding a passion in life, but i realise passion alone is not enough..it has to be fueled with purpose..if not it'll just fade off in awhile, or have to come to a halt becos of unforeseen circumstances.

so have you thought about it?
what's gonna be your life long passion and purpose in life? =)

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