i realise now, the answer is a resounding no. genuine forgiveness and reconciliation are two-person transactions that are enabled by apologies. expressing a heart of compassion/willingness to forgive is DIFFERENT from forgiveness which comes after acknowledment of wrongdoings and sincere apology by the offender. forgiveness without an apology, is often encouraged for the benefit of the forgiver, rather than the benefit of the offender. such forgiveness DOES NOT lead to reconciliation. go figure. and digest.
love often means saying you're sorry, and real love will include apologies by the offender and forgiveness by the offended. i guess some just need to go back to kindergarten and re-learn what our teachers have taught us- "say you're sorry when u've hurt somebody!" the very first things we learn in life, are quite rightly what is fundamental (i.e., important, essential) to life, and to building good relationships. what is one to expect? a flourishing relationship or a beautiful life, when the foundations and fundamentals arent even grasped and ingrained ?
"..you can look yourself in the mirror, and you can look the other person in their eyes, not because you are perfect but because you have been willing to take responsibility for your failure."
obviously pissed. roused. upset. wadever. 'nuff said for the day. im drinking my big glass of milk and heading off to bed.
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